Cognitive errors in our joint life make us not understand our spouse’s words well and have a personal impression of his words or judge his actions in a way that is contrary to reality. If we recognize these cognitive errors and try to reduce them, it will make us have a much better relationship with our spouse and have a better look at the events and issues around us.

The first cognitive error:

Tunnel vision makes the husband and wife not remember the good parts of life and see most of the unpleasant and undesirable events, so when they think about their past marital events, they automatically remember negative memories. For example, a husband and wife who went on a honeymoon and had a chat once during this trip, but after returning from the trip, most of the good memories are overshadowed by the same small fight, and the happy memories gradually give way to the chatter.